How do I get out of my situation?

I am almost 35 and still living with my parents. I recently discovered that my dad is a narcissist, and has been intentionally manipulating my life in the hopes of keeping me completeliy dependant on him. I am college educated and when trying to find my way out into the world, I have discovered how dependant I am on everybody and everything. I cannot seem to get out of this mindset. I continue to push girls away because I am so afraid they will find out that I still live with my parents. During all of this, my father continues to search for excuses to punish me like a child, shutting my phone off, doing favors for me then telling me I owe him.According to him, what I owe him is, "when I tell you to do something, you're gonna do exactly what I tell you to do" He has already sabotaged a career I had going, and is attempting to sabotage the one im working on now. Because I have such high levels of subjugation, I have attracted friends that are similar in nature. I dont have the finances to get out, nor do I know I how to be independant. How do I get out?